5 Things I’ve Learned About Life This Summer

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1. Your community doesn’t have to be made up of the people in your town.

In this age of the internet where people from all over the world can connect over Twitter, Facebook, and a variety of other social media forms, why not take full advantage of this opportunity? I used to scoff at getting deeply involved in social media, because I thought it was a waste of time- that is, until I started utilizing it for my blog. And now, in just the past two months, I’ve met some of the coolest lady bloggers online! From my experience, it can be difficult making new friends in your community once you’re out of college, because often times, you’re just waiting for a serendipitous event to bring you in contact with friendly and interesting people. Instead of restricting yourself to only forming business and friendship connections with the people in your local community, think outside of those social limits. I’ve been meeting amazing people who share many of my common goals and interests though participating in fun Twitter parties and inspiring Facebook groups. If you’re not feeling supported by your friends at home, perhaps your soul people are waiting to connect with you from other cities!

2. I’m the best version of myself when I’m on the go and traveling.

When Stefan and I were vacationing in Costa Rica a few months ago, he remarked that I’m so much happier and energetic when I’m traveling. I would hop right out of bed at the break of dawn, and I’d be ready to explore for the whole day. I felt exactly the same when I was on my recent road trip up the East Coast- pumped to try anything fresh that came my way. I thrive on a combination of being busy and inspired, rolling in momentum over stagnancy. But traveling and being on the go is surely not what makes everyone the best version of themselves. It’s important for each of us to listen to our bodies and realize when we feel most energetic and in the flow of things. Then, do more of it!

3. Just because you follow your passion doesn’t mean success will come quickly.

Wouldn’t it would be wonderful if dream jobs and amazing lifestyles came easily to us all? Though I do believe that part of the struggle is just letting go of our ego and ignoring what other people want for our life, it really is true that work is inevitable. I could spend all day writing articles, marketing on social media, reading coaching books, and learning tips for small businesses. Even though I have a deep love for this whole business building process, it’s hard on the days when I feel like I didn’t get anywhere. I always have to remind myself that it takes time to become successful. So here are my thoughts- if we’re all going to work long hours to make it big and earn money in any industry we choose, why not pick the path that makes us happiest? It’s a no-brainer. That’s why I’m starting from the bottom and working hard to become a coach and blogger. It’ll still be a challenge, but at least I’ll be in love with my job.

4. When you follow what makes you happy, you’ll give off a shining light that attracts amazing people.

Which traits are most appealing to you: joyful, kind, and inspired OR bitter, selfish, and dull? I’m assuming you picked the former. From my experience, the more you embody these positive personality traits, the more people you attract into your life who value the same positivity in life. Truth: I can be the sassiest person on earth, but I was tired of the negativity and dramatic things that were being drawn to me. Instead, for the past couple of years, I’ve been trying to act from a place of love and understanding in every situation that I’m met with. Is it difficult at times? Hell yes. Does it sound hippy-ish to do that? Probably. But does it make me a happier person? No question about it. The best part is that during conscious attitude change the negative people naturally distance themselves from you and the positive people stick to you like a magnet.

5. On that note, you have to accept and set free the people/ things that are drifting away from your life.
Struggling and fighting to keep them with you isn’t allowing the natural course of life to take place. Let it flow. Though it can be challenging, let them go in a peaceful, loving way. It’ll hurt you and make you feel all alone, but I believe that if they were meant to be in your life, they would be. And if they’re meant to come back into your life in the future, they will.

So what are the biggest things you’ve learned about yourself, or about life, this summer? Please share with me in the comments below!

Have a great end of the week,

xo Caylee

 

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The Importance of Following Your Intuition

Most people I’ve ever met seem to struggle with indecision while making major life choices. This is common in the human experience – we all feel scared that we’ll make the wrong decision and be led down a path that we never intended to go in life. We then resort to making a pros and cons list or talking endlessly with our best friends and parents to try and debate the correct answer to our problems right out of each other. But how many times have you settled on a life decision and then changed your mind again less than a day later, because you somehow talked yourself out of it?

The truth is – nobody in the entire world knows the correct answer to your dilemmas and life choices better than you. The problem is that you need to follow your inner intuition first.

I’ve had a great deal of experience in this method of inner decision-making. Usually, I’m really good at following my intuition, and I’ve found it has never steered me wrong. But there’s been a couple of big instances, in recent rears, where I desperately didn’t want to hear what my intuition was screaming to me.

The most major time was in relation to an ex-boyfriend who I’d hoped more than anything was “the one.” He had everything going for him and was such a fun, thoughtful guy, but when he invited me to permanently move up to the Northeast with him to start his shiny new career, my insides froze. Not just froze, but shut down. Every time he would mention our future plans together up North, I would get sick to my stomach and feel trapped in despair. He was being just as sweet as ever, but I became depressed and developed major anxiety issues. Now, if I’d just listed to my intuition that was yelling to be heard, I would have ended it then and saved us both a lot of drawn out hurt. Instead, because I didn’t want to believe my intuition to be my truth, I ignored it and played our emotions back and forth for many months. “I want to be with you” changed to “I can’t be with you” in a matter of days – it was emotionally exhausting and devastating for both of us. In the end, we obviously broke up for good, but it left us with more emotional baggage and dark memories of each other than if I hadn’t avoided my blaring intuition about the situation.

So how do we become better at listening to our intuition? Since everybody has varying physical and emotional reactions when intuition is trying to steer you, I believe the most important thing you can do is to be in-tuned with your body – listen to it. Recognize how it feels when everything is normal and then the difference in feeling when something is wrong. Here is an example:

A completely non-threatening looking guy comes and sits down next to you at a bar. You know from your experience of listening to your body that usually when a nice-looking man approaches, you might feel a little shy and have a slightly higher heart-rate due to that. But as this man starts talking, your chest clenches up tightly, your hands feel disconnected to your body, and you feel an unexplainable sense of fear in the pit of your stomach.

PLEASE LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. You don’t want to find out why your body was having a terrified reaction to that man. It is so important to hear what your body is telling you in any situation or decision. Intuition is your deep, subconscious way of telling the social version of yourself exactly what you want. The subconscious will usually win in the long wrong, because it’s trying to lead you towards happiness. You might as well listen to it in the first place!

Next time you’re needing to make a big decision, go over all the choices in your head using vibrant imagery like it’s actually happening. Imagine what the outcome of the various choices would be, and listen to how your body feels with each one. Does one make your stomach clench? Do you suddenly feel a tinge of sadness? How about a feeling of joy or relief? Don’t ignore these emotions – I guarantee that if you follow this intuition regularly, you will always make the best decision. Just like I should have made the hard decision with my ex-boyfriend and broken up with him sooner – sometimes, the hard answer is still the right answer.

Don’t let your future be dictated by a pro and con list or what your loved ones think is best for you – only you can feel the right choices for your life. So what are your experiences with listening to your intuition? Have you ever had an experience like me and ignored your intuition? Please share your stories in the comments below! 🙂

Wishing you a happy Monday,

xo Caylee