When Your Family Doesn’t Support Your Dreams


What do you feel is the appropriate reaction when your loved ones don’t support what you’d like to do with your life? I would confidently say: I love you, but this isn’t about you. This is about what’s best for me, and only I can know that answer. If you believe I don’t know what’s best for me, you’re wrong. You’re thinking about what you would do if you were me. But you’re not me. So, I love you, but if you’re not coming with me on this journey, then please move out of my way. I’m turning into the most badass version of my authentic self possible, and I need supporters with me, not downers and haters. So are you with me or against me? *drops mic*

Let me start off by saying that I personally feel like I’m the Queen of Familial Disappointment. The family member that I’m always trying to impress is also the person who I oppose most often. I see this as a common thread throughout the lives of my friends- they care about their family’s opinion more than anything, but they’re also tired of trying to be the people that their families wish them to be. Do you see how problematic this is to our happiness? I’ve noticed that the most common way family members demonstrate their lack of support is through pressuring, manipulation, and most of all- giving unwanted advice that we should stop pursuing our dream. Though these acts aren’t necessarily dubious, they can certainly influence us away from the goals of our authentic self.

My dad wanted me to attend his favorite Florida university, but I wouldn’t consider it for a second. Didn’t even apply there. He wanted me to get a business degree and work in a high-paying, office environment. Then, once I got enough corporate experience, he thought it would be great if I started working at his business, just in time for his retirement. Of course, you can guess where this story goes. I tried to get a degree in absolutely everything besides business- broadcast journalism, interior design, and finally, cultural anthropology. I studied anthropology because I completely loved it and felt passionately about it. I did it for me. Since graduating, I’ve taken on a multitude of interesting jobs and heard all of my dad’s advice, but I usually choose to listen to my personal intuition instead. Brazenly following my heart has led me to where I am today, and I’ve been more consistently happy this year than I’ve ever been in my whole life. Without a doubt, I can say that listening to my own intuition instead of other people’s opinions has been the wisest decision.

Now, this is not to say that your family members aren’t wise and knowledgeable. My dad has made many great decisions in his life and has built a business that I truly admire, but there’s one important fact missing: he is not me, and I don’t want to be him. I want you to consider this simple question for a second:

Would you love to have the life of your parents? Or sister, grandpa, uncle, etc.

If your answer is “yes,” then you probably should listen to their advice. They know exactly how they got to where they’re at, and they’ll surely be happy to tell you all of their stories about how to live the same lifestyle. But if your answer is “no,” then please stop following their advice! Your parents aren’t experts about any life other than the one they chose to live.

For example, before getting engaged, would you ask someone who has cheated and been divorced four times already how to make a marriage last forever? Or if you wanted to create your own tech start-up company, would you get your business advice from someone who’s worked only in nursing for thirty-five years? No, of course not! These people don’t have experience in your realm of interest. So why would you follow everything your parents say if you want to live a life that’s very different from the one they have?!

It’s tough love time, because I don’t want anyone influencing you to live their dream. Own your own damn life. Stand up for yourself and what you want. Show your family love and respect, but you must show yourself love and respect too. If what you want out of life is different from what your family or friends want, then giving in to them and living their version of happiness is a crime against the soul. Here are my five basic tips for moments that your family tries to steer you away from your dreams:

1. When people are giving unsolicited advice on what you should be doing with your life, just listen with respect and kindness.

2. Contemplate if they have true expertise in the area of your dreams. If so, consider taking their advice. Even if it’s not what you want to hear, is what they’re saying valid? Listen to what your intuition is saying in response, and go towards that.

3. If they don’t have expertise in the area of your goals, contemplate if the advice that they’re giving is still useful or relevant. If so, take it. If not, just say, “I appreciate hearing your thoughts,” and move on.

4. Do what’s best for you, and live your own damn life! Be gutsy! We’re getting too old to follow what our family says without a second thought about if it’s really best for what we want. Going against what your loved ones think takes crazy courage, but it will be so worth it!

5. Even if you’re not being emotionally supported by your family at the beginning stages of going against them, I’ve found that they usually come around. Once your loved ones see how happy and passionate you are about your choices, they’ll understand it was the right decision for you to make. So forget about their support at the beginning, and be your own shining light. Remind yourself everyday what a brave, kickass woman you are for following your heart!

So have you ever felt unsupported by your friends or family? What did you do in response to their backlash? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!

I hope you have a beautiful, brave day,

xo Caylee



4 Reasons Why I’m Going on a Three-Week Summer Road Trip













Let me start off by saying that I’m no stranger to road trips.

Last summer, I drove on another 3-week vacation from Miami to Madison, Wisconsin, and back, with dozens of stops in between. It was a nostalgic trip – I visited old friends in many cities, saw the beautiful, rolling farmland of the Midwest that I’d never appreciated until then, and got to be with my grandma one last time. The summer before that, a week after my college graduation, I drove from Athens, Georgia to Cambridge, Massachusetts and then all the way back to my hometown in Florida in a span of two months. I thought I had a life plan, but that road trip taught me differently – I experienced more life changing moments, more soul searching, more belonging, more crying, and more despair than in all of the other summers combined. In many ways, it burned me to the ground.

This upcoming road trip will be an all new kind for me – one for fresh opportunities and new beginnings. I’ll be going from Miami to Boston again like I did two years ago, but this time, so much in my life has changed. I’ll be leaving this Wednesday, July 23rd and won’t be back until mid-August. I’ll still be blogging about the experience! Here are my top four reasons for going on a road trip this summer:

One. I’m exploring various towns and cities that my boyfriend and I can make a long-term home in soon. Since I was 16 years-old, I have uprooted myself nine times to different cities and countries around the world. I have friends and memories from all around, but what I don’t have is a sense of community or “feeling at home” anywhere. Stefan and I are interested in moving someplace with a more intimate, down-to-earth lifestyle than Miami. My town wishlist includes: getting to walk or safely ride my bike where I need to go most of the time, having a thriving creative scene, lots of outdoor activities, innovative businesses, and mild seasons that won’t be as hot as Florida but also won’t be so cold that we can never leave the house. My East Coast ideas are the Raleigh/ Durham area in North Carolina and the Charlottesville area of Virginia. My college’s town, Athens, Georgia, is pretty awesome too, but I doubt there are enough professional positions available for Stefan to find a job in his field of engineering. So, basically, I’m on the prowl for our long-term community! Please let me know if you have any other town recommendations.

Two. Through the people I meet and activities I get to do on the trip, I’m exploring future career interests and making connections. There will be so many hours spent alone, driving, that I will either successfully complete a “soul search” and find my passion – OR I’ll just go insane. One or the other. It’s a toss-up. Along the way, I’ll be reaching out to people in the wellness community, visiting locally-owned creative businesses, and even checking out a couple of universities for graduate school. I’ll be going to farmers markets and yoga studios, and exploring every love of mine in between.

Three. I’ll get to visit friends and family that I haven’t seen in years. Basically, enough said. All of my college friends live Georgia or north of that, so I haven’t seen any of them in over two years now. It’s time to catch up! Besides that, my multi-day stop on the North Fork of Long Island, New York is for our bi-annual family reunion. My dad’s whole side of the family will be there – we’ll walk on the beach, sip cold beverages from hammocks, play ping-pong, and eat delicious, homemade food. I cannot wait.

Four. Road trips are just awesome. There’s something about road trips that I can’t get enough of. I enjoy being able to see the sunlight in the trees as I pass by in my car and having the ability to stop anytime that I’d like in order to buy a fresh, local watermelon and ask people why they love their town. Nothing feels more like summer than getting to explore and appreciate all of stunning roadside beauty of the United States. I love the intricate memories that you make through traveling this way. I know it’s not possible for everyone to take weeks out of their life to travel, but it’s really a much more meaningful experience than flying over in an airplane.

Anyway, I hope road trips will become an annual tradition for myself. How about a drive to California next year? 😉 Let me know in the comments if you’ve ever been on a crazy long road trip and what your favorite part was. Also, if you have any recommendations for me from Miami up to Boston, let me know and I’ll try and do everything. Next time you hear from me I’ll be on the road!

Have a great day,

xo Caylee